More precisely - EE was a safe, sympathetic, supportive, group, with whom anything could be discussed, and help was given. I felt great afterwards.
Discussing with my W is skeptical, hostile, belittling, sometimes insulting - asking her to abide by fight rules is contrary to her style, and so the experience is not at all safe.
Luke
M58, xW54 S22, D18 M 1984, D 2016 Living a new life.