Did I mention that I hate my Ex?

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but I cannot allow him to give them the impression that he is helping them when he is NOT, or the impression that I am somehow ripping off their dad by collecting alimony.

I feel the same way. Theres two sides to the story. He wants the kids to think hes doing his part...but he's NOT. Mine is exactly same. Tells kids thats why he pays mom spousal support. Yet he takes home 80% more than me but doesnt owe anything else.

I think it only forth right and honest to bring it to table. When I told S this he said yeah but dad said hes paying off your huge debt. I explained that that debt wasnt ours as family it was from his failed business. It wasnt money we or I spent on new cars or stuff. It was to pay dads workers and other debts in business. He honestly tried to put that on me!

My kids are 21 and 22 adult enough to know and understand what he did to end M but financialy they are clueless.