Bug, I hope that one day I can reach where you are. I am recognizing that I can be happy with myself and really don't need H to complete my happiness. I still struggle with expectations in that area. I am keeping a smile on my face and being happy (for the most part) around H.
Glad your IC has been so helpful to you. This is definitely an interesting time for you. Your words of wisdom have helped me so much over the past year.
M44 H57 D17 (special needs) M 18 yrs Bomb 7/2/12 Still living together