Sometimes I wonder which is worse, having a waffling spouse like yours who runs hot and cold or having a totally shut down spouse like mine that is ALWAYS cold[/quote}
It is a tough one, and I wonder the same thing. I think if he was cold all the time, I could drop the rope a little bit more. I don't have any expectation for a reconciliation anytime soon. H is pretty far gone at this point from what I can see.
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LOL! Hey, I think I'll start using that one at work!! "Oh, you needed something today? I didn't read it, I get too many emails so I quit reading them." Sounds reasonable!
Yeah, I'm married to the most reasonable person on 2 feet. I have 3 email accounts and know I get more than he does. My clients get pi$$ed when I don't respond in a day. I can just imagine telling them that.
[quote]You might broach that subject with him before things go any farther, because he very well could be. It's alarming how many men think it's OK to burn the candle at both ends.
If he is in an R, she is currently living in another country as a citizen there. Cripes, I feel dirty sometimes. This guy was H's flight instructor and took him for his heart surgery. How am I going to explain this one?
H's revelation for the evening: If he could find a decent country with beer and a grocery store close by, he would leave here immediately. And he's serious. Hard to believe life can be that bad, but not be willing to do anything about it.
H and I talked about a few things tonight and on issues where I may have fought him in the past, I let him vent and told him that I wasn't disagreeing with him, but that I was on somewhat of a different road. I wanted him to hear that I was talking about something else and not trying to argue or devalue his opinion, which is a 180 for me. I pretty much side stepped his comments and redirected.
A little bit after dinner, he thanked me for dinner. Which is funny because it was a pick up from Walmart. We also listened to some music and he told me about something in a song that he found neat. Ironically, the song is "It's Only Make Believe", which sounds like a good title for my next thread.
As for my new friend, we've been texting tonight, while H is in bed. He's offered to get my wine for me. I jokingly asked him to go to Nordstrom Rack for me and he asked wanted I needed/wanted. My emotions are all of the board right now. 18 years with one person is a long time. It's hard to picture myself with anyone else physically right now.
I also know that my wall is still up, like it was when I met H. This time, it will not come down as easy. while I am peeking my head out, I feel like I am pulling it back in pretty quickly.
M44 H57 D17 (special needs) M 18 yrs Bomb 7/2/12 Still living together
