Good debate on this thread! Im following along and liking this....

I too dont think dating is a good idea. Ive seen many former WAWs say that they would have been relieved if their husband started dating. It takes away a lot of the guilt that WAWs have about leaving their husband and family. Not to mention wrecking someones life by having them get attached to you only for you to leave them the second your WAW shows interest.

I second starsky's opinion that there is a lot of game play in getting your spouse back. Of course we learn new skills on the way that will make us better partners but most of those skills cant be Deedemonstrated until you have a comnited spouse, it is getting them to recommit that requires some game play....I think.

Me, H-34 now 38
W-32 now 35
T-13 now 18 years
M-6 now 9
Daughter 3 years now 7
Bomb 11/27/12 - OM
1 year in house separation
Reconciliation 12/2013. Healed now 2017