And do NOT lose it again. You cannot afford to. But I think your text was reasonable, given the circumstances.
No more beating yourself up. Start over.
Do the anniversary gift and I think a movie (preferably a live show, for the occasion) Or some activity so you don't do R talk as you will be tempted to.
No R talk from you. If she says R things, stay on message, but mostly just Listen.
M: 57 H: 60 M: 35 yrs S30,D28,D19 H off to Alaska 2006 Recon 7/07- 8/08 *2016* X = "ALASKA 2.0" GROUND HOG DAY I File D 10/16 OW DIV 2/26/2018 X marries OW 5/2016