Help! I'm so hopeless and devastated...

[KindaHappy1]

I would say the best chance in saving your marriage is to follow the DB advice, call a DB coach if you can, I wish I had when I first posted.

You need to learn to love yourself, and to do that, you are going to have to do things for yourself and create a better, more positive, self assured you. Lean on friends, journal daily, at the very least. Read DB or DR and follow the steps. Then reread.