better to love or be loved?

[willbwell]

all of the above. just so tired of it. h today asks what I want him to do for the kids. I said get therapy to figure out why you couldn't be happy with our family. he won't do that. But, yet he expects me to go along with D. He even gave me names of attorneys his attorney recommended. So, am I just supposed to call up and say hello, my name is...my H gave me your # because he would like to D. I have seen an attorney. My attorney charges 375/hr. too expensive I know. should probably find another but would rather focus on my classes.

H says over and again, I'm not coming back. I should have said I hear you, but I didn't. He gets defensive and angry at me. I said if we are going to be amicable , we need to be kind and considerate.

H says he wants to move forward. I want to ask him what does that mean? He has his freedom. He does his own thing. Can I ask...does that mean? he wants to date again? get married again?
I want to say moving forward is usually positive growth. I see nothing positive in D.

Need to go study.