HWA, I get you all the way! You are properly right about the ups and downs and therefore when feeling up prepare for a down. When feeling down look forward and know there will be an up! I believe T told me this some time ago and I use it every day. Prepare for the down and look forward until the up.
Thankfully the downs aren't as bad or as long anymore. Now to focus on the looking forward.
Originally Posted By: HWA
That's the hard thing for us LBS's, we are married, but not married. We are single, but not single.
This holds a lot but not to all of us LBHs. The two of us are properly right now in the same place regarding this but there will be another time! I don’t know if I should look forward on this one but right now I feel quite contempt being single. I am not on the market and I believe you aren’t either. This should not prevent us from having joyful and happy interactions with the female gender but taking this further than conversation feel way ahead for me at the moment. But who knows what tomorrow holds?
The question is not IF you are at that point but WHY you are at that point? So WHY do you feel married? Give it a thought![/quote]
F, no, this status of limbo married/single is not stopping me from joyful interactions. But I will not and am not in a position I want to go further. Yes, who knows what the future holds, but while I am married legally, I will maintain my married status. Why do I feel married? Firstly because legally I am. Secondly, I look at the sitch this way: my W put up with me for many years having behaviours that weren't good for our marriage. The least I can do is allow her some time to also be in this situation/behaviours. Until a divorce comes through, I am still trying to focus that the W is going through her hard times (in her own ways) and I, like her, will try to deal with it for as long as I can. I owe her that. Third, I still hold the principles of why I married her: I care for her, I love her, and I want to spend the rest of my life with her.....still. I want to continue to work on my marriage (if given a chance) to make it better than ever it was.
Originally Posted By: HWA
F you never know, I might come over there and have quite a few beers with you.
My home will be yours! I will open my arms and my door and welcome you as a brother! Who knows – we might even have some fun. F [/quote]
The offer is the same if you ever come over here to enjoy our fine weather, bikini clad girls and lovely flies everywhere.
ME:51 W:46 M:25 S:22, S:20 Divorced 16/9/15 BD 10/12 W left 12/12 with OW, affair confirmed Nov/12. Dark since 6/13 I"m in a new relationship since Feb 14.
