Another thing that stands out to me is that I believe she does still love me, but as the DB counselor told me she has decided that what she is risking does not make it worth it. Two weeks ago she told me out of the blue that she would never divorce me no matter what and we were sexually intimate and talking and doing ok. This EA she had might not have even been a real EA. I guess the guy was someone who was flirting with her and telling her he had feelings for her and she liked the attention, but told him she wouldn't do anything with him because she was married. In one of their conversations she said she was with me instead of a different guy they were talking about because she "trusted me with her heart". It was a really bad weekend that pushed it to over the edge and flipped the off switch in her heart. She hasn't told me she isn't in love with me.

I guess what I don't know is what this means for the future post-divorce, if we communicate as friends and if she will reconsider if I can change and start to want to make it work again.

T 10 years, M 4 years, both 28 years old
7/3/2013 - W wanted D, we attempted to reconcile
7/20/2013 - discovered W's EA, attempted to reconcile
8/24/2013 - W told me she wanted D, filed papers