Hey F, thanks for the words and yes, reading ppls sitchs' here helps to see were not the only one going thru this. Im into 4 months now and am now trying to really get a grip and move forward. I believe you are right when you say gaining knowledge about our WAS' and our sitch. B/c without that info I dont know how far we can really get to honestly move forward. I may be wrong but may not be either. As Ive heard many times we cannot control what our WAS' are doing but maybe understanding why they did helps the LBS.