I thought maybe it was time for me to move from the newcomers forum to this one since i am officially divorced. I am not exactly sure how to move my thread over here, but if anyone wants to catch up on my sitch, it is "Circles No More". If anyone wants to paste it here, it would be appreciated.
My divorce was supposed to be final on July 12 of this year, but because of some snags in the paperwork, it wasn't official until about 3 weeks ago. I got the final paperwork in the mail and i just threw it on the counter and never opened it.
It has been a difficult journey to this point as i am sure it has been for all of us, and my sitch really isn't a whole lot different that anyone else's. I have gone very dim. My XW has not initiated any contact with me unless it is in regards to the kids or bills that need to be paid. I keep waiting for her to come out of her "fog" but i know i cannot let my life revolve around the hope that she eventually will.
Here is what i am struggling with. One of the reasons for our divorce was she said she wanted to be taken care of. We had very poor communication and she always seemed to take the things i said out of context. My struggles revolve around the fact that i feel i should reach out to her somehow. From what i have read, this maybe isn't a good idea but there seems to be quite a few conflicting ideas and approaches that i thought i would seek more advice.
One of the last things she said to me before we divorced was if she see's true change then we could possibly start dating again. So aside from the fact that i have gone as dark as possible, wouldn't she just see that as more of the same?
But the fact of the matter is, she divorced me. Yes, i can honestly say that i have caused my part in the failing of our marriage, and just like so many others, i have apologized to her for that.
But what is the next step? (besides GAL and 180)
Thanks and i look forward to following all your posts!
Me: 41 W: 36 M:9 yrs Together: 12 yrs Kids S7 S4 BD: 01/13 W filed 5/13 D final 8/13
