I don't have my books with me currently Mr Bond, but thanks for the clarification Starsky. I think on this forum a lot of things get misconstrued, we all read the books and interpret them in our own ways and share that here and some of the wrong ideas then spread. But yes Starsky, I found this video on Michelle explaining "acting as if" on youtube (http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=AErbVUDLoRY) and it lines up more w/ your understanding and the quote of course.


I think after joining the forum and always being directed to "Sandi's Rules" I forgot the book explanation, as Sandi's Rules state

"#12. Act "as if" you are moving on with your life with or without them and that you are going to be okay. Keep a good attitude."

me: 30 H:30
tgthr:7 m:4
no kids
5 counseling sessions initiated by H as a LR: Oct 2012
long distance marriage b/c of work since Nov 2012
official BD: July 2013
nothing filed
1/1/14 I dropped the rope