Hello Whiterose, I am sensing some changing, but I don't know to what direction. He hurt me so much, and for so long, I am not sure how much I want him back. I don't want this person anyways. I am not sure if I can settle for less than who he was. Meanwhile I changed. I am much calmer towards the kids, I am a better mom, I do not fight with him, but I react when he looses his patience with the kids. I had never denied his complaints about me, but since working "with" me on our marriage he decided to give up. We had a good marriage, I could not have been making this up, all by myself. Little signs: He is the main chef in the house. We used to enjoy our traditional long dinner with our traditional liquor. He set the table for that couple times and I refused to join. I said to him "When you do those personal gestures, serve my drink like you used to it hurts me. It gives me a false sense of hope. Do not do anything personal". But a week later he does the opposite, prepares a nice dinner. Just before dinner, we have a huge fight. I get upset, cry and cry. He comes to my room couple times, not knowing what to say, and then he comes to say "if I have been coming to your room, it means that I am very sorry, come to dinner". All 4 we sit, he serves my drink, we all say cheers. This is one example of new incidents, there has been several. Especially, the person apologizing was the man who was lost 2 years ago. I am a very pessimist person, always prepare myself for the worst. But it seem logical to think that he may be going through new changes. Where he goes from here? Nobody knows. Would't I miss the train if I keep my distance? I cannot risk to be hurt again...
_________________________ Me: 42 Him: 42 M: 15 years T: 16 S10, D4 H changing since Sept 2011, MLC very likely World exploded 9 Dec 2012
