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[doubledown]

Hi Fade,

thanks for all the feedback and for the compliment as well. It's tough, but considering the circumstances, I prefer to keep my cool at this point.

You make some interesting points in justifying a confrontation. I'm really trying to gather as many perspectives as possible and try to gain a little insight from each and every one.

I realize that I probably only have one solid chance at addressing this situation head-on, so I'm taking it slow and really trying to learn from other's experience along the way.

I'm not a proponent of divorce and never have been, so I'm already going against the grain in many people's eyes. I'm no door mat either. I do, however, choose the path of humility and patience for now. I'd hate to push her farther away in her current state of mind and become a permanent reminder of why she is with OM or worse, have her call my bluff and tell me she's done and filing for divorce without having had the opportunity to let this thing run its course and provide me some time to work on myslef. Even if it doesn't work out for me, it certainly will strengthen me and build by character.

Again, thanks for your input. I really appreciate it!