Her personality is that she has a lot of anxiety (she is taking Lorazepam for this and I heard the stuff worsens depression, which she has, making her think this is even more hopeless). She is really trying to rush this process as quickly as possible. Her personality is that she is really good at managing projects and very fast with getting things done. Part of this is her anxiety, and how unsettled she feels if she doesn't do something right away. I think she is going to divorce me as fast as possible, and as long as she is busy and moving she won't have to think about this. She has told me before she can't stand being alone, and I think if she ever gets off the meds and has to spend time by herself she is going to start possibly regretting this. Right now this probably feels like a novel experience and liberating to her. Will that feeling last?
Whew, lots of mind-reading and diagnosing. I've been at this over a year and I've read the sitches of people who have been at it much longer. Guys in particular are really bad about trying to diagnose our WAW's, because most of us are fixers at heart. Take it from me and others here- you have a 0% chance of figuring out why your W is doing what she's doing. You need to change your focus.
Have you read DR? I haven't seen you talk about your 180's or your GAL efforts. You're VERY focused on your W in this thread. Let's here some more about MagicJack- what are your passions? What are you doing to take your mind off your sitch?
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and right now the only thing I can do is let her do this and let this process happen.
Right, give her time and space. But there's more, while you're doing that you also need to work on YOU.
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I had previously told her I wouldn't want to be friends after this, but the DB coach told me I should.
Yes, some here refer to it as being like a friendly neighbor. No heavy discussions, keep everything light and fluffy. Be a friend without trying to push for something more. Pushing = pressure = bad.
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Even if it never works out between us again, I need to change to be a better person anyway.
