H says he needs to give, needs to be needed in a relationship, that after the first ten years of our marriage after I became accustomed and expected our level of living, I didn't need him anymore, so he felt useless.
Wow, is he really that shallow and insecure? That's rhetorical, of course he is It reminds me of my dad, he was very independent when he was younger, but in his 60's he said much the same thing about needing to feel "needed" and he went through one after another unhealthy relationship with women who desperately needed someone, anyone. I still shake my head when I think about some of the airheads he went out with then (he married two of them).
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He also thought that I had been having affairs all our marriage...I assured him it never crossed my mind (it didn't)
It's pretty common for people who engage in affairs to project that onto their spouses. A friend of mine who has ALWAYS been loyal to her H actually got accused of adultery by him and he insisted that SHE get tested for VD, all while HE was engaging in an affair. It was unbelievable. And even more incredible, she did it and she never asked him to do the same.
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Am I the booty call or the safety blanket between GFs? Probably, but I also know sex can be a strong bond?
It can, but just watch out for you. If you start feeling used then consider discontinuing that.
It reminds me of my dad, he was very independent when he was younger, but in his 60's he said much the same thing about needing to feel "needed" and he went through one after another unhealthy relationship with women who desperately needed someone, anyone. I still shake my head when I think about some of the airheads he went out with then (he married two of them).
