Taking A Stand; What's my Position?

[Mimi00]

After going the first week not talking since BD, H finally called today.

He started off by talking about our health insurance, so I assume the call was out of necessity not want?

We began independant insurance month ago b/c of H's travel job. They found out he is living out of state are going to raise the cost, and H wants to cancel the insurance completely and wants me re-sign up for independent insurance on my own and he'll continue to pay it (or at least that's what he says for now).

I told him I'd look into it...he went into a spiel on how he really would like to cancel right away it before the cost goes up.... so I said ok, cancel it.

He began talking about him really needing a car. I asked if he still is looking at the (ridiculously expensive) truck he wants, he said he's been looking in lower price range b/c his credit isn't great and he wants to put down a large DP (I kind of felt like he was wanting me to feel sorry for him??? My credit good it's what always got us apartments and cars and if my credit wasn't enough my parents always stepped in b/c their credit is wonderful. H's family can't help him in that way at all).

He said he's also looking for an apartment, but it's really hard to find something he'll be able to afford.

Then he asked how am I doing. It's hard for me to lie... so I fumbled over my words and said I'm doing ok. He asked me about my apartment and if I like it... I wanted to tell him how much I hate it, it's the worst apartment I've ever lived in, the male janitors who walk around in the mornings when I come home from work make me nervous b/c I live alone...etc... but instead I said it's fine. I guess if I was to do proper DB, I should have just said everything was wonderful?

I immediately turned the subject to my dog b/c that's always a positive, no faking the joy in that subject. Then I changed the subject to him, b/c I didn't want to answer any more questions about me, I hate not being able to say what I'm really feeling.

I asked him about work, he said work is always really great....it's just the rest of his life that he's trying to get in order.

Then he brought up that he's going to visit a male friend in Georgia who loss the ability to want and has not family. While that's nice....... back when I used to snoop at phone records, I noticed H has been reaching out to 2 females in Georgia, one I believe to be his ex-girlfriend before me, the other I noticed friend-ed/followed him recently on facebook and instagram AFTER they talked by phone (she's also commented on one his 'wonderland' photos "I'm ready to visit now ". So I wouldn't be surprised if he's going to see one of them, as well... (don't worry, I don't snoop much anymore, but it's nice to know what the truth may be. If he's thinking of starting a relationship w/ one of them, he's repeating the same pattern, he had a long distance relationship with me.)

Then he brought up the marriage dissolution paperwork. He said my moving has made things more difficult, now that no one lives in the state we were going to file in, and that he will look in to finding out if he can get paper work for where he is living now or for where I am living now, and he'll keep me updated.

I quickly changed the subject and asked about the weather lol

As the conversation ended, he said
"I'll call you back later today, or text you. Or call me.... or if you have any questions about anything feel free to call me".

I thought that was interesting. Again him telling me to call him. You guys still think he REALLY means nothing with his "call me"?

Just thought I'd ask one more time