HWA, I think you've grown a lot and I fully agree with you when you say now is the time to start focusing on positives rather than negatives. But I've got to say, your list of "original positives" sound mostly negative- your W doesn't contact you, the family doesn't want you in their lives, your friend dumped you, your W is trying to clean you out in the D, you have to accept where you are in life, you have to stop being negative, and of course the tattoo thing. That's a pretty depressing list of "positives" See if you can come up with a list of REAL positives- things that you look forward to, that energize you and make you excited. Your running and playing the guitar, those are probably a couple? What else? How about trying some new things that you've never done before? Throwing pottery, painting, flying a kite. Maybe some sports that get you out there and meeting people like soccer, softball, volleyball, etc. I think you're still falling short on GAL. GAL will take your mind off your sitch and refocus you on your life and the joy that you can experience in it