One giant leap forward! - Part 4

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Me: I have thought about it and I would like to be there for S3's birthday in the morning.

You might have added "if it's OK with you" since you already told her you would not be there. The above sounds kind of like a demand when it should be a request. Like I said in the post above- it's all about negotiating.

I was going to ask her what changed her mind about working on the M etc.

NOOOOO! Get back to your DB'ing my friend Get comfy with Sandi's rules again. Don't ask that kind of stuff, no matter what the answer is you're not going to like it.

Right now I don't feel like having her in my life as W anymore. The question was more for her to look at and maybe think about more than anything else.

You sound just as defensive now as you did months ago. You have a chip on your shoulder and you put a negative spin on everything.

If YOU had said you were really hungry but your wife INSISTED on running then, thereby delaying your dinner, you would have vented here and probably fumed at her.

You have unfair double standards, you read game playing and competitiveness into Her words, but I see them thoughout Your posts.

I hope you heed LAs words

I don't get the dinner thing. Maybe it's because if I had to wait it wouldn't bother me at all.
I often go 7-8 hours during the day and not eat anything.

When we lived together this sort of thing was often an issue. I would take over childcare after work to give W a break from the kids. She would do whatever (gym/shower) until kids went to bed. After they went to bed the things I wanted to get done was always a problem because she was hungry and couldn't wait 30 minutes for me to rush my wants through.

I do know that I resort to game playing. I tend to when I think she is. I'm not proud of it. I guess I have always done it.

What steps do people recommend to change this behaviour?