Attraction, oxytocin, and limerence

[2ndtimearoundCA]

I can see how dating someone purely for the purpose of making our spouse jealous would be considered game playing, but I didn't mean to focus my post on that action in particular. I was more thinking about an entire spectrum of things that we could do or not do that lead us to be more attractive. sandi2's 37 rules would be examples. What if we made a rule to never say anything negative to our spouse no matter what. Always frame everything in the positive. Would that be a game? What makes something a game? If we are acting as if everything is great when we feel terrible is that not a game?