I needed help getting the metal screw part of a broken lightbulb out of our kitchen fixture. I would have thought it needed shutting off the power to the kitchen, but he just got pliers and fixed it.
It's a good idea to flip the breaker off, but if you're 101% sure the light switch is off you can do it without getting shocked. Although in your H's case, I think I would have poured some water on the floor, given him a metal step stool and then turned the switch on while he was working.
Wow, you all know how to make someone feel good! Thanks for being my friends and reading and posting.
Re being irritated or thinking of h as an a-hole, he may very well be, but my attitude is on me and i dont want to be that person anymore. I cant think of myself as well adjusted as i think im capable of if i am situation dependent, if i can be zen only when h isnt pushing my buttons. For me, i dont want to be satisfied. H has been irritating me so consistently for so long that i think it's in me and not just a feature of h that i'm powerless to manage.
I used to believe when you dont like something you cant change, change your attitude. (One of the advantages of having grown up not having my needs met) i think i can get some of that back.
Sometimes ive learned to courageously stand up for myself and what i ned, but fighting this relentless pettiness of his doesnt feel good to me.
I got an idea today to write him a letter and then burn it. To work out my emotions without feeling the need to get him to do things differently. I will let you know if it helps. Yeah h is irritating but whether he is or isnt i dont want to keep being an irritateable person. I want to be in control of my emotions and manage my environment appropriately to take good care of myself, and correct my thoughts when theyre keeping me stuck. Not there yet but its a goal.
Adinva 51, S20, S18 M24 total 6/15/11-12/1/12 From IDLY to H moving out 9/15/15-3/7/17 From negotiating SA to final D at age 50 5/8/17-now: New relationship with an old friend __ Happiness is a warm puppy.
I have written many letters to my W in the past. I found it therapeutic. I can say a lot things I want to. I used Word to do it. Just in case I accidentally hit send... Eeeps!
One of the greatest things I learned here is that I have no control over no one but myself... that I can't control things that might me angry but I can control how I react to them...
I don't think we need to change our attitudes about things we don't like but how we deal with them.
“Things turn out best for the people who make the best out of the way things turn out” ― Art Linkletter
You just leave the clippers out... When he beefs about, turn around, look him in the eye and say, "You feel better now? Ask me if leaving them out bothered me? Pffftttttt. Obviously not, huh? Hahahahahahaha!"
I had a business partner for 15 years. He was the biggest scorekeeper I ever met. Used to make me laugh. He never understood the friendship I had with my best friend... We never kept track of who did what for who or who bought the last beer or how we used to split dinner checks regardless of who had what... So sad.
“Things turn out best for the people who make the best out of the way things turn out” ― Art Linkletter
