Just my 2cents worth, but I would still let H initiate all the moves. Your friend invited you to this concert, not H. She wouldn't expect you to invite H as well. Remember Sandi's rules, I think it says invite him 3 out of 5 times. I always tell H where we're going and let him take the initiative and ask me if he wanted to go. Sometimes I do ask him to go, but he always says he doesn't know what he's doing. My friend asked me to come to a music festival today, I think she would've felt awkward if H had turned up as well. I told H about it on the phone tonight and said he would've enjoyed the Madness and UB40 tribute bands. He validated this and he sounded disappointed, but isn't this to show them what they're missing by not being together anymore? Does anyone else have any suggestions? I still lack confidence in giving others advice, especially when they are getting on so well with their H. I don't want to upset the apple cart and bring the sitch right back to square one again!
H47 me48 T22 M21 S20 - Got high functioning autism 3/2000 H admits to OW and moves out to live with her 11/2000 H moves back home 2/4/13 H moves out H tells me he wants D 6/13, but now he can't afford to!
