wife hardends heart-3

[MrBond]

"It's selfish when I did not find a better paying job but instead got too comfortable with the current one."

That's not selfish. If you were in a job you liked and could grow in it, then there's nothing wrong with it.

"Expenses will always go up. I should take up the responsibility to provide more for my family."

It sounded like your lifestyle was pretty high. You could have cut down a little and just been happy with what you had. And your W should have supported you.

"It's selfish when I just let W manage our finances and takes no interest in them."

Not really. Some men like taking care of the finances and some women do. Men don't have to do the finances in every relationship.

"W did request that we talk about our finances when we are arguing or mad at each other. Maybe I should just calm down and listen."

You should do this for any subject that comes up.

"What irks me the most was when I mentioned something about her little luxuries and she snapped 'it's my money'. She's right and I never questioned her on her spending since that episode."

Does she bother you about what your spending habits were? If you're going to talk to her about finances, you also have to do it in a way where she doesn't sound accused of something.