Here is something I am wondering about. Should I let wife know that I am going to follow through with the divorce process? Or, should I simply have her served? I don't know which way is the best approach....Email, phone call, Just surprise her? Any input is appreciated. What should I say, or should I not say anything at all?
I think it would depend on how you want it perceived... and the motive.
If you want to be a dick an want maximum impact and shock value because you just want to cause her pain, just do it. It should be good for a couple of good laughs around the pool over beers, I wouldn't give it a second thought.
However, if you doing to move ahead and want to come across a man of class, honor, and dignity, I would meet her for coffee on neutral turf.
I would explain why it is time to get the process going from your perspective. No finger pointing... no name calling... nothing negative.
The man you want to be is going to determine what you want to do.
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