I asked IF she would return my share of the house and she agreed but in monthly payments. The amount will negate the sum of the alimony I shall pay to W for couple of years. W will call L to revised the joint petition.
Get things in writing that are enforceable. Keep your word, but get Her promises in writing.
Yesterday, she said that i'm selfish since my earlier reason to give away my share of the house was for my kids.
This^^^ makes no sense. Either you misunderstood her, or she's simply incorrect. Do not waste energy on it. If she names the wrong city as capital, MUST you correct her? The answer is No...
She said our children's expenses is high and if I don't contribute since the sum is negated then she will have to bear it alone. She can manage without my help. I told her she was free to think anyway she saw fits. I planned to deposit a small amount into my kids account but I didn't tell her and just kept quiet.
Do you have a L or not? You need an advocate.
I will bear my responsibility regardless of the outcome of my new business. I will care for my kids and still contribute in whatever ways I can. There is no reason why I would not and I just don't know why she would think otherwise.
Really? Read your earlier posts. You have Not been involved as a father, until recently.
Have I not given my entire salary each month and leave just 'lunch money' to myself? Have I not proven myself throughout the years? What new things do I have? How it that selfish?
You have Not proved yourself over the years. You just began.
But your choice about the house and kids, recently, is not selfish.
Your past is still being held against you. Only time changes that, if ever. Her opinion cannot always matter.
Consistent change + sufficient time, will reveal to Her that your changes are real & will be lasting.
She's guilt tripping me again and I'm not buying this.
Good.
I used to give my parents a small monthly allowance but stopped because W says our expenses was high
Your w & children are your priorities. If you cannot afford a place of your own, you are in no position to be supporting your parents. Save up to have a place for your kids, with You.
. I'm reluctant but I figured W was probably right. She said after the bomb that she didn't want to give money to my parents. I'm hurt hearing that because the amount was really small. I don't know it that's WAS talk but it felt that she had lead me to feel guilty over not prioritizing her and the kids.
I don't know how much it is, or if it is any of HER business at all. I'm just saying your situation is not a good one.
Being a good provider is hard on men. I have many brothers and a son. But it is seen as "the man's job.".
You cannot live with your parents for long, and be seen as the man you want to be.
Did you see the rest of my post?
Why do you believe God won't take you back OR
Are you just saying you are now an atheist? Just curious. You DO need to talk to someone.
Keep on keeping on. Keep posting.
M: 57 H: 60 M: 35 yrs S30,D28,D19 H off to Alaska 2006 Recon 7/07- 8/08 *2016* X = "ALASKA 2.0" GROUND HOG DAY I File D 10/16 OW DIV 2/26/2018 X marries OW 5/2016
