Anyone can act like a jerk, but she won't want to return to a R with a jerk.
Hi F - not to hijack your thread. I have followed your situation since I joined and I always respected your effort that you put into it. This above statement is something that I struggle with for personal reasons. You however seem to have a good handle on implementing a strategy once you understand what others are trying to say. I on the other hand need the whack across the head for it to sink in, not because I don't know what is best, it's because the situation gets the best of me and my emotions still fail me.
Sandi has always been helpful and seems to have a great perspective on the WAS. She has helped me in the past, but I was/still not smart enough to fully understand everything she has to offer. Half of what she says, and she admits to this, is we are not ready to hear her early on. Just like it's an evolution for the WAS and their journey, it is for us it seems to have a parallel journey that hopefully will converge someday. The WAS is said to be in their fog, and it certainly is true for me as well being the LBS.
Stay strong and live your life healthy. I will be trying as well as it seems my situation is slowly following your path.
M: 43 W: 43 Married: 17 Together: 20 BD: 4/8/13 no legal or physical S as of yet 3 kids: S:14 D:13 D:9 W admitted EA: 5/5/13 Mediation started: 6/3/13 W says EA is done: 6/30/13 - still interested in D
