I'm reading your stuff with interest. You are an incredibly intuitive and a smart chick.
So put on your smart chick hat. I know you've got one.
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Today i'm wondering what i need to do to not be so irritated next time. Have a conversation asking him not to do certain behaviors i find disrespectful?
OK, smart chick. You know that you can't have *this* conversation with him. You can't control how he behaves any more than you can control the weather. But unlike the weather, you don't have to put up with it.
He sounds like the kind of guy who just goes looking for sh!t. Seriously. He's keeping score, and he must be a walking pile of negativity.
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Just need to figure out what it is i need to do differently, or think differently.
1. You can tell yourself that he's an a*hole and he is one mess of negativity and his opinions mean squat. (Yeah, that's hard, particularly when you're in the moment of being on the other end of his spewing.)
2. You could turn the sitch around and start laying into him about all the things he does wrong when he starts. (Hey, that might be fun? At least for a time or 2?)
3. You can tell him to pretend you are a co-worker he doesn't really know. And that unless you ask for his opinion, he should keep his mouth shut. In fact, you could tell him the only topic that you want to discuss with him here on out is about the boys. Period. And then end the conversation when he veers off course?
My vote? Get a can of WhupAss and go for #3. Then enforce it like hell.
Betsey
"There are only 2 ways to live your life. One is as though nothing is a miracle. The other is as though everything is a miracle."
