One giant leap forward! - Part 4

[T1000]

Not heard from W since mid Friday.
The plan was on Monday I would drop the kids off at her Moms because she wasn't back in town until 17:30

Seconds before I was dropping them off at 16:00 I get:

W: Eta?
Me: I've dropped them off. (After dropping them off)
W: At my mothers?
Me: Yes, where else?
W: What time did you leave them?
Me: Just now.
W: Why so early?
Me: No reason
W: Well in future can we keep it to 5pm? I'll head round and get them.
Me: Sometimes it can be.


Through the text I kept saying to myself, "don't react, respond, don't react, respond."
I felt like biting at the "why so early?" and the "Well in future..." really got me wound up.
The "I'll head round and get them." is game playing. She has told me nothing about what she is doing to the point that I'm dropping them off at her Moms.

"I'll head round and get them." translates to "I was actually here but you didn't know it and I'm slipping this in here to get to you"

I was listening to an audiobook on Boundaries in the car. I tried to listen to it months ago but it didn't sink in. Makes a lot of sense now.

I regards to dropping the kids off I feel that seeing as I'm doing the driving unless it's special occasion I should be deciding when I drop them off within reason. I'm feeling like a timed babysitter.
Things like bringing them back later on a Sunday and similar things I had been doing recently because W and I were getting on and working at it. In a way I was giving her some of the benefits of having a H.

We aren't working on it and I want to take some of the benefits away again because they aren't suitable in the current position.

I'm going to be careful to not tackle them right now or W may see this as me being punitive. Some of it actually could be, I'm not the best judge right now.

I have just messaged W telling her I would like to be there for S3's birthday in the morning.