Two years in limbo, it's a fine place

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Or maybe just be irritated and accept that? When two gears have different sized teeth they are going to grind no matter what you do.

You're right, he's going to find the 10,001st thing and he will point it out, and doing so will make him feel the slightest bit better in the moment and you will feel irritated and put down and unappreciated, and he won't care because he thinks your infraction merits those feelings and may teach you to be "better" and then he feels good about himself again.

I don't think that changes until he deals with his own issues and stops picking you apart, or you get to a place where you just laugh off that he's so petty and take pride in what you do well. It will take time and energy to get there, that you could invest in other ways.

Is it worth it until he decides to make an effort? That emotional energy can go into you and the boys instead.

He's a annoying guy when he does that -- that's no reflection on you! (But you already knew that)