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[doubledown]

Thank you sweetbabyred! I really appreciate you taking the time to respond to me.

Sometimes I'm confused by MWD's books (DB & DR), because they focus alot on working on a marriage in trouble, but not necessarily while a spouse is involved in a heated PA without the other spouse's knowlegde. So, I've found it very challenging to find an approach to address and improve my realtionship in its current state.

Your point about setting goals for myself and working on things that were present and problematic within the relationship and becoming a better person, is a great help.

I'm glad I'm not the only one who sees that this relationship with OM doesn't have much going for it. If that's the only reassurance I can get, I'll take it. There's not alot of that available in my daily life. At this point, I haven't told a soul about my situation and I'm not comfortable sharing it outside of this community for fear that it could potentially be shared with others.

thank you!