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Thank you so much for your feedback rkyfat73! I really appreciate your thoughts and words. It makes me feel a little more confident.

That's really something to consider about taking a breath and not rushing into anything. And I do need to work on getting myself in a better place and build my strength(emotionally). I'd hate to start running again since I've lost 20lbs. since 7/5/13!! Stress.

I think what W is getting from OM is attention, complements, he's 12 years younger, they share a strong work ethic. W told OM that they share the desire to set goals and work hard to attain them, if they hit an obstacle, they find a way to overcome it. That is not not my strong suit!

They worked together for a couple years until today, and the owner of the landscape business where they worked, died suddenly. The OM held the owner to the level of a father figure as he had worked with him since he was 15. So they grieved that loss togther.

I'm sure he pursued her.

Our marriage has been challenged a great deal over the past 5 years. W lost her career due to economy in 2009. Took lowly reatil position at landscape nursery. Felt humiliated, underemployed, unappreciated, we scraped by, as she had been earning 6 figures prior to this. She ran into big conflict with manager and found it difficult to work there, but had no other options. Was invloved in a serious auto accident in 2011. Recovered for much of 2012. Went back to work in 2013 at same place and now is in relationship with OM, who is an overweight, uneducated 32 year old hispanic who speaks broken english and smokes. I'm puzzled.

Ever since she started working at this place we constantly argued about how many hours she put in at work and that I'm at home with our two kids every evening, and all day on weekends.

We literally spent no time together for two years. And this is the result.

How do I attempt to meet her emotional and other needs at this point? Do I just stay upbeat, PMA, GAL and have fun with the kids?

I'll work on my skills and learn more abour DB and DR. I've read 5 Love languages as well.