Me- LBS or WAS?

[labug]

You are a loveable person, you don't need other men to know that, it's something you have to discover about yourself. Iknow you're hurting and searching for something but I fear you won't find it in the places you're looking. I think it's keeping you further from your truth.

labug- what am I really afraid of? I think I'm afraid I still love H ( a lot) and in order to rise to the next level of detachment I am purposely engaging in other R's to protect myself from the continued hurt he is causing.

Think more about where your fear lies.

Detaching from one person doesn't require another person.

Are you protecting yourself or running.

To get beyond the hurt, you have to go through it. You have to feel it to your core, let it pass through you. Distracting yourself with OM will only delay that process and it will come up again.

What I hear in your post above is you're not really sure who you are or what you want. That's a scary address, I lived there for too long. I tried to run from my fears but being busy, having stuff I "had" to do, people I had to see yadda, yadda, yadda.

I was in full blown flight mode.

Once we face our fears we usually find out they aren't as scary as we thought.

((( )))