I am in a very similar situation and I too am struggling with whether or not I should confront my wife about the affair. Generally speaking though, I don't think anything good will come out of it. In my situation, I think if I confront my wife she would deny it, then accuse me of not trusting her and would probably ask for a divorce. People in affairs are not rational and cannot be spoken to in rational ways. Unfortunately, they have to come out of the fog and fantasy on their own and there is nothing we can do to spend that process up. This will be the hardest thing you will have to endure but be strong. I know you can do it. Your story has given me some inspiration to press forward. Keep posting, journaling, venting, etc on these forums.
