Had an interesting conversation today with a couple in my church. H left his W for another woman and was gone two years; they've now reconciled and been back together 5 years, and are so lovey it's almost gross!
W hung on, said they went to divorce court 5 times to finalize, and the court judge postponed it every time. The last time the court reporter's water broke in the courtroom! Anyway, she went contrary to some of the DB'ing rules. She kept her distance, and didn't bug, but did tell him she loved him and was praying for him when they saw each other.
I asked what made him come back; and he said he was miserable almost the whole time, guilty, but didn't want to give in and look stupid; but when he was back with his wife, it felt like "home".
Of course, every sitch is different, but it was encouraging to hear that not only did it work, but it took two full years. And even though two full years is a long time, they've been back together five, and have 50 more years to go.
