I dunno...reading your posts I would wait and let her keep coming to you. It sounds like you keep inviting her. Let her want it more.
T 10 years, M 4 years, both 28 years old 7/3/2013 - W wanted D, we attempted to reconcile 7/20/2013 - discovered W's EA, attempted to reconcile 8/24/2013 - W told me she wanted D, filed papers