Because she deceived me when I was starting to trust her. I feel disappointed and disgusted by her actions
How you feel abut it is understandable but it's all on you. Remember back when I was reminded of 2 kids fighting in the back seat of a car, He hit me, No I didn't, she hit me first? You're still both there. One of you can be the adult both of you can be the adult or you can stay in the current pattern.
If you think either you or your W are going to snap out of patterns and behaviors of a lifetime, those again are unrealistic expectations. This is going to take a lot of time and patience and it still might not work the way you want it to.
Tell me you definition of empathy. Why do you think you have empathy for yourself?
Me 57/H 58 M36 S 2.5yrs R 12/13
Let me give up the need to know why things happen as they do. I will never know and constant wondering is constant suffering. Caroline Myss
