In part, because I believe my wife may have felt I focused too much on myself (especially my career).
I haven't read your whole thread, this post just popped up and I read it. The quote above, do you see that focusing on your career isn't focusing on you?
Really think about it, why so much focus on your career. Go deep.
Dealing with emotions and digging deep personally are really difficult. I can't say I have a lot of experience in these matters. I'm hoping therapy will help.
As for my career, I see my pursuit for recognition, accomplishment, and job security as distracting me from what was going on at home. I felt a lot of pressure to provide for her and provide for us so that we would have financial security. I defined myself by what I did. I know she feels the same way about herself. She doesn't think much of her job and feels that marrying me meant giving up a career. (I have tried to help her find something more rewarding, but she seems to have seen my efforts as controlling.)
For too long, I think I lived to work, but these last few years I have wanted more than ever to work to live. I don't think my wife heard my pleas in that regard.
