I called her last night after we had the discussion in the parking lot and I apologized for swearing at her before and said it wouldn't happen again regardless of what happened between us.

Today I texted her to let her know I was moving my stuff out of our apartment (she has already moved out but holds the lease), and she texted me back asking if I wanted one of the cats. I said I thought they should be kept together since they like each other, and asked if I could borrow them maybe some time when this was all over (I thought she would like the silliness). She said yes and I didn't text her again.

I am trying to show her I am being cheerful and ok, and not controlling, and not obstructing her wish for a divorce.

T 10 years, M 4 years, both 28 years old
7/3/2013 - W wanted D, we attempted to reconcile
7/20/2013 - discovered W's EA, attempted to reconcile
8/24/2013 - W told me she wanted D, filed papers