Good to see you, I thought you were going dark on us. (Just kidding!)
LOL I have been thinking and GALing – both to extremes I am not going dark on anyone ever again without telling them in advance! I believe this is some kind of what I did to W prior to BD!
Originally Posted By: LTH
You really are doing great, hang in there.
HWA told me so as well – I am having a hard time believing it
Originally Posted By: LTH
I only have one thing to say about pointing out and blaming. I often say to my children "it's not what you say, it's how you say it". Think of it that way. If you said to W "no we can't be friends and it's your fault because you left", what would the reaction be? It definitely wouldn't be good! However, if you say "W, I want to be friendly for the girls, however, I can't hang out like friends. I am sorry, you chose to move on and I need to do the same", it still points out her decision but without the blame.
This I do get! I really understand it and believe I could write a thesis about it right now! It actually is doing it that’s causing all the problems in my head!
I have to small questions:
As I recall, Sandi told me not to do Christmas, children’s birthday or anything and I do believe she meant this. What’s your opinion on this one? I wouldn’t do that with a neighbor but I would for the children. I am thinking about me,W and children in a short get-to-gether on these occasions, but I don’t know!
Was is you writing about how your happy posting on FB tricked something in your H. I did post 2 things on FB yesterday and got a lot of likes and comments. I have never done this before but I am thinking about being more active on FB but this seems to go opposite of all I read in here.
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Me:44 W:43 D7, D5 (S11 from other R)
T: 8y - not M ILYB: 8. Mar 2013 W moved: 1. Aug 2013 LRT: 20. Aug 2013 _______________________________ Do or do not – there’s no try.
