That same night (a week ago Sat), we had a fight about the kids. I asked her if she had made any arrangements for child care while she was going on her vacation. I work full time, and during summer, she has typically taken care of the kids during the day.
Her response: "You're their parent, take care of it" Me: "OK, I will take care of it" And she walked away.
She came back and gave me alist of the kids activities and instructions on a list of things she wanted me to do.
My response: "You are going on a 5 day vacation with some man, abandoning me and the kids, and now you want to dictate to me what I need to do next week? I will be here, you will be gone, I will be responsible for the kids and I will take care of it" Her: "It is a business trip" Me: "We both know that is a lie" And she walked away. I went to bed.
30 minutes later, she walks into my room, turns on the light and announces that she has taken care of everything. She has given the next door neighbor boy a schedule and paid him to drive D12 to all her activities. Me: "No, I am not going to work, leaving my 3 kids alone all day and asking a 16yr old boy to come over and run my D12 around town." Her: "This is what I have arranged and you need to do it" Me: "I said I would take care of it and I will" Her: "I am going to sit here (on the side of my bed), with the light on until you agree to my plan" Me: "Whatever and rolled over and tried to go back to sleep"
This is where she said she was going to stop being agreeable about the D, and would take everything from me and other threats. Eventually, she left.
By the way, I did not leave my kids alone all day, I arranged child care. And, I did not hand D12 over to some 16 yr old boy.
I cannot believe my W thinks that it is appropriatte to ask a 16yr old boy to pick D12 up from cheerleading practice, and drive her home @ 12:00 to an empty house when I won't be home until 5:00. I like the neghbor boy, but this plan was just plain foolish.
