RL, I know it's difficult listening to the opinions of others, but you need to let it go. Until they have walked a mile in your shoes on any given day, then they do not know what they are talking about. I'm sure that if this had happened to them, they would be right where you are today. They don't understand and won't until they experience it.
I agree w/FY, don't make any decisions about kicking your h out until after he returns from his trip. You'll know if this is something you need if he returns and continues to act out w/the Russian Tart.
For now, sit quietly and allow the answers to come. Try to cut down on your stress as it may be affecting your vision as well. You have to remain calm and take care of yourself because your surgery isn't that far off. It's time to take care of YOU and allow God to take care of your h.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
