The reality of D is beginning to set in and she really resents me. Everything is my fault. If only I would live in the arrangement she wanted, we would all be better off.
The latest conflict is over church. Last Saturday, she announced to me that she was taking the girls to church and that she was bringing a "Guest". I told her that it was completely inappropriate for a married woman to go to church with another man, and I do not want my kids around these men; especially going to church. What kind of a twisted values message does that send to my kids? She said it is only a friend and that she will do whatever she wants.
I called one of the elders at the church and explained the situation. I told him that I can't control what my W does, but that I shouldn't have to deal with this at my church. He met with 2 of the other elders and sent her an email that she could not attend any services at the church until they have had a chance to meet with her.
They exchanged a series of emails with my W saying she can do whatever she want and that it is none of their business and them telling her that security will escort her out of the building, etc... Finally she agreed to meet with them after church last Sunday.
According to the elder, the meeting lasted 2 hours. The churches position is that my W's behaviour is out of line with the teachings of the church and that she must follow certain guidelines. While she is married, she cannot attend services with any male "Guests". Once we are divorced, because they have determined that I am the "innocent party", she will have to find a different church.
After our argument about church (a week ago Sat), my W indicated that she will "Never talk to me again". So she never acknowledged the meeting or the outcome. Since she went on her trip, we hadn't spoken for a week.
