Hello! 20 year marriage teetering... (part V)

[AnotherStander]

S10 and I went with a couple of friends of mine on a trip to a 4-wheeler park- 2000 acres of winding, crazy trails. They have a Polaris RZR 800 which for those who don't know is kind of a cross between an ATV and a dune buggy. It has a side-by-side seating arrangement and is a pretty powerful little setup! S10 loved it the first time he saw it and has been wanting all summer to ride on it. And ride it we did, my friends just said "go for it" and we attacked the trails with abandon We climbed crazy hills, did donuts in the sand, did high speed sprints on straight-aways, plowed through ditches and over small fallen trees, etc. etc. S10 was hooting and hollering the whole time, he just loved it! I did too! Unfortunately the wonderful trip was dampened when we got back to my friends' house to discover one of their beloved dogs had collapsed and was in shock. They ended up having to put him down shortly after

AS, courage, (hope) and peacefulness to us all. H and I are meeting today to discuss finances. h doesn't want to work on M. just wants to move on with his own life. Would like to be kicking and screaming, but I will go along in calm manner. so so very sad and unfortunate.

Very sorry to hear that! Your H feels that way NOW, but people do change their minds and he may change his. You just never know what's going to happen, but often the WAS takes so long to change their mind that it's "too late" for the LBS.

She sent it to you in an email? After 20 years couldn't she tell you in person? Anyway how are your kids taking this, assuming they know?

W has always hated confrontation, so she probably did it in email to avoid one. Of course there wouldn't have been one, but even a 1% chance of one would freak her out. Just the way she is. I told both D's, it wasn't really a surprise to them because I had told them in the beginning of summer that W would be filing "any time" (because that's what W told me then). I haven't said anything to S10 yet and probably won't until the paperwork is actually filed.

AS
Take care of yourself and remember that it's okay to feel bad about the situation, because it does blow chunks. Just don't stay on the pity train longer than necessary lol.

Eh, I knew it was coming so it hasn't really bothered me beyond tossing and turning a bit the night I got the email.

I received the papers in the mail so... yep I'm officially single and honestly it really feels no different than last week after the emotions settled down.

Sorry to hear that, but you're right, it doesn't really change anything beyond the legal aspect of the R.

Paper never did anything more to me than give me a paper cut.

LOL!

Sorry for the latest development. Hang in there and I hope you are feeling better soon. You give a lot of great advice on this site and you are appreciated.

Thank you