Me- LBS or WAS?

[AnotherStander]

Went out w friends last night & hung out w cute young friend of theirs....felt weird and wrong. Okay, we kissed, but it was a mistake. I had way too much to drink and was he was feeding me compliments and....no excuses, it was a BIG mistake. Now, I feel very regretful.

Less booze next time Booze can really cloud your judgment, especially when you're in emotional turmoil (and I sense that you are). Don't beat yourself up, just learn from it.

So, friends, you can give me all the 2x4s you want but what I really need is some thoughts about WHY I am where I am and what the heck am I thinking and doing???

Well all I can do is base that on what you've posted recently, and based on what you've posted it sounds to me like you still have very strong feelings towards your H although you seem to be trying to deny it (to yourself). I think you want him to snap out of it and dive back into the M so you can decide whether you want him or a new life, but you're frustrated because he's not where you want him to be. So what do I think you should do?

STEP BACK.....yeah, that's what I need to do now. Just sit for a while... breathe.

THIS! Stay away from H, stay away from cute D'd guy, and really do some soul-searching. Decide if you want to stand (IE, give your H more time to get his shitaki together) or if you're done with him. Every time you post something about him I think the same thing- he's very close to coming out of the fog. If you decide to stand you have GOT to be patient, it's still a marathon with many miles to go.