Thanks. The situation has changed a lot since the other thread so I guess I will just pick and use this one. For me I thought a 180 would be not following her around and trying to control her, and giving her space.

I feel she is too quick to act and is impulsive with things.

I don't know if this was right or not, but about five hours after we had that discussion today, I called her to tell her I saw she had cleared her stuff out of the apartment, and to say thanks for her respecting my space. She asked if that was it, and I said yes, and she 'goodbye' and hung up.

I called her back a few minutes later to apologize for having sworn at her earlier this week when we were arguing on the phone, and I told her that no matter what happened between us I wouldn't swear at her again.

She said thank you and then after another minute said it was getting late and she had to go. I said goodnight.

I think that might have been too much neediness on my part calling her back like that and calling her late at night. I don't know.

I don't know how the GAL would apply to me since I had a life, and my own friends, and a full-time job. I am enrolled in classes in addition to my job, and am wondering if I should stay in them or not. The pain is so raw right now I wonder how I can function.

As for the 180, she told me she feels like I don't show her enough love, so how do I do a 180 without appearing needy? Do I just continue to support her in divorcing me?

T 10 years, M 4 years, both 28 years old
7/3/2013 - W wanted D, we attempted to reconcile
7/20/2013 - discovered W's EA, attempted to reconcile
8/24/2013 - W told me she wanted D, filed papers