Thursday one of my co-workers kindly (and I mean kindly, I am not saying that facetiously) took the time to explain to me how ridiculous and crazy I seem to all of them to keep standing after four years. Then today another co-worker used the same term, ridiculous. My actions seem ridiculous to them. That is SO hurtful.
Do either of these co-workers have a partner who stood by them for 30 plus years? A partner who they feel would have "ridiculously stood" for them had they plunged into MLC themselves?
I like to think that my pre MLC W would have stood by me through this MLC crap had the tables been turned. Maybe you believe the same of your H? I don't think anyone lasts 30 plus years unless they really have something really worth standing for. Your co-workers mileage on this may vary.
And am having trouble detaching from the people at work saying I'm ridulous
F-them. Isn't that right, Nero?
And she's back on board with DBing - H gets her all riled up sometimes, and she tries to talk me into kicking him out Now there's a good MIL!
He's committed to the trip now. Wait 'til he gets home and then decide if you want to kick him out! Seriously, just knowing you aways have that option should give you strength.
I found a hot yoga class not to far away. They have a 2-week trial membership. I'm going to add that to my GALs.
Good idea! Do this and more. Co-workers only worry about you when you appear to be floundering. If you're happy and content, they'll back off.
M: A really long time. Crisis: 5 years. She's still worth it.
Life is never made unbearable by circumstances, but only by lack of meaning and purpose. -Viktor Frankl
Then today another co-worker used the same term, ridiculous. My actions seem ridiculous to them. That is SO hurtful. 
