Newcomer's brief summary

[sweetbabyred]

As the others have said, goals are things that you do for/by yourself. If it involves someone else's actions, it is not a goal.

You just need to work on the issues that you know you had within the relationship and become a better person, no matter what happens with your w.

And definitely don't ask those questions. Because even though it might be obvious to the entire world that her relationship won't work out with the om, she is only feeling hormones and "love" right now, and it may only cause her to prove how right they are together and how wrong you are.