Looking for some experience here. I am reading DR and have set some short-term goals regarding what I would like to see change about my marriage.
Here are some of my short term goals: - want her to end affair by December 25, 2013 - have her initiate conversations with me, calls, texts. - have her approach me and want to be around me - see me as I make improvements, notcie that I'm a kind, loving, patient father to our boys and become engaged with us. - consistently agree with her feelings and not question them - start spending time together; go out, dinner, movie, something! - have her want to come home earlier and want to be here with me and be happy while at home.
these are not "short term" goals. and most of them are all about what you want her to do! this is a wish list.
look at each goal and ask yourself - what "baby steps" would be a sign that she is moving in the direction of that goal?
reread the chapter about it in the "Divorce Remedy" book.
