Jon, it doesn't seem like you are seeing your own actions in all of this. Even the fact that you've been here before, got re-married, and the person you married has similar issues to the first wife....what is it about you that is drawn to these type of women?
Showing her the bills to prove you took care of her---IMO, not a good idea. If you know the truth, there's no need to prove yourself to anyone.
After she said she was committed to the marriage---asking her to provide that in writing, IMO, not a good idea. What was the point of that? Right now, your wife is a WAS, and you are not to believe much of what she says...she has a lot going on in her head. Lovingly Detach, stop allowing her words and actions to control your behavior.
Telling her you paid the bills she asked you to pay, then telling her you'd reverse them if she was lying --- IMO, not a good idea.....seems a bit controlling, no?
If you do something for someone, either don't expect anything in return, or don't do it at all. You can use paying her bills to force her to stay in the marriage, even if she did say she would if you did.
Why does she have to ask you to pay things anyway? Does she not have a job? Did you take away her access to your accounts after separation? Or has she never had access the accounts in the marriage?
me: 30 H:30 tgthr:7 m:4 no kids 5 counseling sessions initiated by H as a LR: Oct 2012 long distance marriage b/c of work since Nov 2012 official BD: July 2013 nothing filed 1/1/14 I dropped the rope
